The Fear Of Being Alone

My driver was 51 dating a 43 year old guy. At first she said he was a good guy. But then she said his priority was drinking. He was bored if he didn’t drink. There actually wasn’t a time he wasn’t drinking. He didn’t spend time with his kids but blamed it on them. He bought a place in Rocky Point just so he could drive drunk all the way down there, and then drink there. They have only been dating 7 months. She told me about how just recently they were at a restaurant, and he said that he was going to go to the restroom. Instead he went to a table full of women and got in on their pictures they were taking. She didn’t like it – why did he not tell the truth? Why did he have to insert himself in their party? Also, the ladies appeared to be in their early 20s. It just kind of left my driver feeling gross and like she had to compete for his attention. I told her that if she can’t find anything that she likes about him, it’s time. Her 17-year-old daughter didn’t like the guy either and couldn’t figure out why they were dating. I also told her that I kept hearing the name “Rob.” So if she could do some clearing and cleaning, she might meet Rob. I had a feeling he would be a much better match.

All of that aside, something is making her hang onto a guy who puts drinking and gaslighting first. I have no idea what it is that makes her label him a good guy because there wasn’t one single thing she said that was positive. I do know her fear of being alone is her fear alone, because her daughter isn’t a small child; she is certainly old enough to be on her own unsupervised, so my driver couldn’t use the excuse that she needs this guy to be around.